Stop Being Supermom and the 3 Things that are Most Important to being a Great Mom

Recently read this blog post: Dear Moms, Jesus Wants You To Chill Out.

And I thought I would pass on these words of wisdom. As moms, we really only need be concerned about doing these three things:

  1. Love God
  2. Love Husband
  3. Love Children

Don’t worry about being a super mom.

I am still going to try to keep a clean, organized house, make meals from scratch, and other nice “extras”…BUT if we eat pizza we buy, have books and toys from one wall to the other, and the kids are still in PJs at 2pm…IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD! I am not a bad mom, and my kids will still grow up with good values.

As the article also states, Moms, stop comparing yourself! This only leads to discontent, disillusionment, and disaster. If you find yourself more discouraged than lifted up by reading different “mom” blogs, just stop reading them altogether!

So,  I’m gonna go chill out, and I hope you do too.

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Reflections

A verse that I have been trying to meditate on for the past several months is from Philippians 4:8. You know, it’s the one that has “whatever is pure, whatever is noble, think about such things.” Because, what we think about becomes our actions, our character, who we are…

I want to be a good wife, a good mother, and a wise woman. To achieve these goals I need to be careful with my thoughts. If I let negative and complaining thoughts into my mind, then they will carry over into my actions. Sometimes I need to give myself a mental shake and tell myself “Hey, cut that out! Replace that negative thought with something lovely!”

If you are a mom, you know what I am talking about! It is so easy to think, “My kid is driving me crazy! If I hear one more cry I am going to looooose it!”

Or if you are a wife, “If that man leaves his dirty clothes on the floor one more time!”

It is easy to get caught up in the little annoyances. 

Give yourself a good mental shake. Count your blessings. Say something positive, outloud even, if you have to! “My kids are driving me crazy! BUT, I love them! They are wonderful, they are a blessing, my life would be empty without them!” And give your husband grace because I’m sure there are a ton of things you do that annoy him too! Sure, you can address the annoyance, but do it respectfully and with an attitude of love. (Don’t complain about it!) “Honey, I would really appreciate if you could make those dirty clothes find their way to the laundry basket.”

When my Sweet C gets up in the morning I sing a little line of “This is the day the Lord has made, I will rejoice and be glad in it!” Choosing joy in the morning will set to mood of the whole day. Circumstances may cloud up the sun, but thinking about what is true and admirable helps refocus on the bigger picture: God is good and gave me a good life. I want to be a good wife, a good mother, and a wise woman and thinking negatively/ complaining will not get me there.

What goal do you want in your life, what is an obstacle, and how will you overcome?

 

Have your oreos and eat them too!

Sometimes, okay probably more than that, often as a Stay-at-home-Mom of young children (17 months and 11 weeks!) I find myself thinking at the end of the day, “What did I do all day?” I mean, I know what I did…changed diapers, fed my baby, prepared and served meals to my toddler, cleaned up after meals, read books, changed more diapers, held and rocked my crying baby, chased my toddler around the house to recover my cell phone, played with toys…you get the idea. But what did I accomplish? How was I productive? Why on Earth am I soooo dang tired at the end of the day?

See, you aren’t the only one that asks these questions! This is the season of our life with babies and small children. We are accomplishing something that isn’t always visible. We are productive and not giving ourselves due credit. We are tired because as Mommies we are pouring not just our energy into caring for our children, but our very hearts and souls.

Of course there is the housework (a completely on going cycle), the meals, organizing, and planning, but the most important thing is not a thing at all! The unconditional loving, nurturing, teaching, praying, sharing, adventuring, hoping, encouraging, inspiring we do for our children is the hardest, most worth-while job of all time. Building our children’s character, instilling values, raising responsible people; now that’s an accomplishment! The 24/7 endless seemingly menial tasks are beyond productive, they are labors of love for our family.

Be encouraged! You are doing a noble thing. You are doing a good job! Motherhood is not for the faint of heart. And if you are having a hard day remember this verse: Philippians 4:13

I am so blessed to have an outstanding husband and two girls who adore me. Wouldn’t trade this life for anything.